Eddies

I was speaking with my co-worker, and we got into this random discussion about men. She started to tell me about this guy she dated (Eddie) who was possessive and controlling, and of course treated her poorly. In the discussion, another co-worker started talking about her sister's boyfriend who was verbally abusive. Then I started having flashbacks of my ex, and how he ignored me and lied to me as if that was his part-time job.

So the stories start pouring in, and we realize that we have all dated an "Eddie." Of course Eddie changes nationalities and accents, height and hair color, but at the end of the day he is THAT guy who you wish you could have skipped over in the dating cycle, but didn't.

There are different types of Eddies, the ones who cheat on you, the ones who won't call you his girlfriend (but still want all the benefits of commitment), the ones who use you, the possessive/insecure ones...the list goes on, and on...

My question then becomes, why? Why do we do this to ourselves? We date a guy who we know is a D-bag, but we stick around. Even the strongest, most independent women I know have been caught with an Eddie. They see him from a mile away, they see the red flags, but yet they still date him!

Don't think women are the only ones this happens to, because men have it pretty bad too, we even have a term for it, it's called being whipped! We all have that guy friend who is dating that girl nobody likes. She treats him like dirt and is mean to all his friends, yet he worships her?

This baffles me in so many ways, but I am not here to provide answers, because quite frankly I don't have them. Just be aware that these people are out there, and when you date one, just know that it happens - life goes on...

I'll leave you with a fun quote:

*Chris Rock: "ladies, if you've been dating a guy for 6 months and you haven't met any of his friends, you are NOT his girlfriend"